Rapper T.I. under fire for taking daughter to a yearly virginity checkup
Taking protective dad stereotype to whole another level.
There’s good parenting. There’s bad parenting. And then there’s really bad parenting. That’s when we come across this story of Rapper T.I. (real name Clifford Harris). Apparently, T.I. takes his daughter Deyjah Harris to a yearly virginity check-up. The daughter goes to the gynecologist to get her hymen checked. Of course, this news didn’t fare well with many people, especially women.
Why the Rapper T.I. takes Deyjah for a virginity check-up
In the interview with ‘Ladies with Us’, Rapper T.I. explains that he doesn’t want the purity of his daughter to be ruined:
“I’m talking about all the slimy, grimy, chubby-fingered little boys, who want to defile and destroy the sanctity that I have…the thing that’s the most important in my life. I’m going to deal with that with extreme care.”
Moreover, he said:
“Deyjah’s 18, just graduated high school now, and she’s attending her first year of college, figuring it out for herself. And yes, not only have we had the conversation (about sex), we have yearly trips to the gynecologist to check her hymen. I will say as of her 18th birthday, her hymen is still intact.”
Though since the interview came out many people criticized T.I. rapper for his actions. That led to him clarifying what he actually meant. The rapper said that he only checked the reports to see if Deyjah’s hymen had broke or not.
To clear his name, Rapper T.I. went to Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett-Smith:
“Never said I was in any exam room. Never said it was being done present-day, never said that her mother wasn’t present.”
Clifford Harris says the comments had been taken out of the context and he was merely joking. The father also shares that he is now more sensitive about the subject matter for his daughter’s sake but his intentions were always pure at heart.
Rapper T.I. also says he sought permission from her daughter in order to know about the reports. But the thing is, it’s not possible to actually check a girl’s virginity this way.
You can’t really check virginity by just checking the hymen
The experts say there is actually no medical test that exists to check a girl’s virginity. A gynecology professor at the Northwestern University in Chicago, Dr. Maura Quinlan, claims:
“A virginity exam does not exist. If someone brought me a girl for a virginity exam, I would tell them, ‘I can’t say either way.’”
For those of you who aren’t aware, a hymen is a thin membrane that partially covers the vagina’s opening. People generally think that only sexual intercourse can break the hymen. But actually, it can be broken through a variety of ways such as tampon usage, or any strenuous physical activity.
Moreover, the anatomy of a hymen is more complicated to understand for those who haven’t studied biology. As per Dr. Quinlan:
People who don’t do this for a living don’t understand anatomy. It’s like earlobes — there are tons of different appearances. You can tell if someone has had a vaginal delivery, but to tell if someone has had vaginal intercourse is not possible.
Plus, it is worth noting that not every female is born with an innate hymen. So, the presence of a hymen, or lack thereof, is no indication of the status of virginity. Hence, what rapper T.I. was trying to do with his daughter Deyjah has no scientific basis.
Moreover, it’s actually a violation of a human right
Feminist Gloria Steinham was quick to criticize T.I. for his statements regarding his daughter. That’s because she thinks it’s a violation of human rights. The World Health Organization actually calls virginity testing completely unethical. The organization is trying for it to get banned too. The testing has no clinical or scientific basis. Plus, it’s actually used in third-world countries to marry off young girls into marriages without their consent:
Sometimes seen in developing countries as a qualification for marriage, the sham procedure violates girls’ and women’s human rights, according to the W.H.O. It is an unnecessary and often humiliating and painful exam that can be traumatic and detrimental to psychological well-being, the W.H.O. has found.
The painful process is simply a violation of a girl’s right. Many times, it’s not even done with a girl’s consent. Many parents would opt for this kind of a procedure because they are not sure how to ask their children if they are a virgin or not. Parents like rapper T.I. for example.
But Dr. Quinlan has this to say about the whole scenario:
The easiest way to find out if someone is a virgin is to ask. Talk to your children, develop a relationship of trust with them, and trust them. Teach them from an early age about a healthy sex-positive way to live, and hopefully it will work out.
T.I.’s wife Tiny Harris opens up about the matter
The wife of American rapper T.I. finally opens up about the subject matter. She says that after the virginity checkup controversy happened, T.I. stayed off social media. Moreover, she said that people were commenting on T.I.’s comments without knowing the full story. Hence, Tiny Harris said this:
You just can’t give those people your energy because they don’t really know you. They don’t know enough about me to really take what they say to heart. It’s not their fault, but I’m not going to dwell on it. I’m not going to let it upset my day.
Tiny Harris said that she only cares about how Deyjah, T.I. and Deyjah’s mother Ms. Niko is coping with the whole situation:
“That’s the only really important issue in this situation, not what everyone thinks or how they perceive it. It doesn’t matter. It’s not your household and it’s not affecting your household. We just want to focus on our household and make sure she’s doing great.”
Perhaps that is true but a virginity check-up is not something that should still happen in modern-day and age.